
Mrs. Astor
Caroline Webster Schermerhorn Astor (
September 22,
1830–
October 30,
1908) was a prominent American
socialite of the last quarter of the
19th century. Famous for being referred to as simply "the Mrs. Astor" later in life, she was the wife of real estate heir
William Backhouse Astor Jr.
Childhood and youth
Caroline Webster Schermerhorn was born into New York City's Dutch aristocracy, descendants of the city's original settlers; her father, his brother and the extended Schermerhorn family were engaged in shipping. Raised at 1 Greenwich Street, near the Bowling Green, until the age of 10, the population growth and increasing urbanization of lower Manhattan in the 1830s led her family to move farther north to 36 Bond Street, near the then-ultra fashionable Lafayette Place (now Street), which had been developed by her future father-in-law,
William Backhouse Astor. Caroline married William Backhouse Astor, Jr. in 1854.
Housewife and socialite
Although popularly imagined as wholly preoccupied with "Society", for the first several decades of her married life "Lina" Astor was principally occupied with raising her five children and running her household, typical of women of her class in mid 19th century New York City. In 1862 she and her husband built a four-bay townhouse in the newly fashionable brownstone at 350
Fifth Avenue, the present site of the
Empire State Building, next door to her husband's older brother,
John Jacob Astor III; the two families were next-door neighbors for 28 years although the Astor brothers did not get along.
The gatekeeper
In the decades following the Civil War the population of New York City grew almost exponentially, and immigrants and
arrivistes from the Midwest began challenging the dominance of the old New York Establishment of which Lina Astor and her family were part. Her desire to be the unchallenged
grande dame of
New York society was as much about preserving the heritage and traditions of her native New York, a conflict dramatized by
Edith Wharton in
The Age of Innocence, as it was about excluding those whom she deemed inferior.
Aided by the social arbiter
Ward McAllister, whose life work was the codification and maintenance of the rules of social intercourse, Lina Astor attempted to codify proper behavior and etiquette, which had formerly been a
lingua franca among the city's Establishment, as well as determine who was acceptable among the
arrivistes for an increasingly heterogeneous city. McAllister once stated that, amongst the vastly rich families of
Gilded Age New York, there were only 400 people who could be counted as members of Fashionable Society. He did not, as is commonly written, arrive at this number based on the limitations of Mrs. Astor's New York City ballroom. (McAllister, an Astor cousin by marriage, referred to her as the "Mystic Rose".) Her husband's lack of interest, not only in the social whirl but in Lina herself and their marriage, did not stop but instead fueled her burgeoning social activities, which increased in intensity as her children grew older.
In
1883, however, Caroline Astor was reluctantly forced to formally socially acknowledge
Alva Vanderbilt, the first wife of
William Kissam Vanderbilt, thereby providing the Vanderbilts, the greatest "new" fortune in New York, entrance into the highest rungs of society. Alva Vanderbilt had planned an elaborate costume ball with entertainments given by young society figures for her housewarming, but at the last minute notified young Caroline Astor (Lina's youngest daughter) that she could not participate, since Mrs. Astor had never formally called on Mrs. Vanderbilt. Mrs. Astor duly delivered her calling card to Alva Vanderbilt.
Head of the family: the Waldorf-Astoria
Until 1887, Caroline Astor had been formally known as "Mrs. William Astor", but with her sister-in-law's death that year, she shortened her formal title to "Mrs. Astor", as she was then the senior Mrs. Astor, the only remaining one in her generation. Her nephew,
William Waldorf Astor, felt that his wife should be technically "the Mrs. Astor", as he was the only son of Caroline's husband's elder brother, and he insisted Caroline resume use of "Mrs. William Astor". She refused, and the press sensationalized the family conflict and famously began referring to her as "
The Mrs. Astor".
On the death of Caroline's brother-in-law
John Jacob Astor III in
1890, William Waldorf Astor inherited his father's share of the Astor holdings and, titularly, became the head of the Astor family. His further attempts at challenging his aunt's preeminence in New York society, however, were thwarted, and he soon emigrated to
Great Britain, where he later became a
viscount.


Caroline Astor arranged for an enormous cenotaph (at red arrow) that still dominates the Trinity Church cemetery at Broadway and Wall St.
In retaliation for his aunt's intransigence, William Waldorf Astor had his father's house torn down and replaced by the first
Waldorf Hotel. Caroline and her son,
John Jacob Astor IV, first contemplated tearing down her house and replacing it with livery stables. "There's a glorified tavern next door," Mrs. Astor famously is quoted as saying. Until the opulence of the Waldorf Hotel revolutionized how New York socialized publicly, polite society didn't gather in public places, especially hotels. Unwilling to live next door to New York's latest sensation and public draw, Caroline and her son tore her house down and erected another hotel at its site, the Astoria, and soon the two hotels merged and became the original
Waldorf-Astoria Hotel, which was torn down in 1928 to make way for the Empire State Building.
Death, grave, and legacy
By the time she moved into her new house facing Central Park, at the corner of 65th Street, her husband had died, and she lived with her son and his family. Caroline Astor spent her last several years suffering from periodic dementia, and she died at age 78 in 1908 and was interred in the
Trinity Church Cemetery in lower
Manhattan, while her 39 foot tall (11.9 meters)
cenotaph dominates the small churchyard cemetery at the intersection of
Broadway and
Wall Street, in which many prominent early Americans are buried.
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